SAILORS....LIKE IT OR NOT!

The new paradigm: Life as we know it is over, things are forever changed. I’m not discussing reality for the CEO’s and  money brokers on Wall street with private jets and limousines, I’m talking about everyone else, not just those who bought “The Killa Villa on the Hilla” but those who struggled to move from rental to small house to medium house and so on. Those of us who hoped things would be easier for our children and our grandchildren than it was for us, those of us who didn’t take it for granted and who shared what we had. Not only is it hard for our children, our own lives teeter on the brink.

It’s like our health and the health of our loved ones everything can seem fine one moment but in the blink of an eye, a snap of a finger everything can change.

 Never again can we stretch ourselves to the next level for the rule makers are changing the rules as fast as they can be established. Even when you think you are adjusting and finding a new reality, things shift, one or two seemingly imperceptible actions taken by others out of your control and the sand beneath your feet vanishes.

So how do we cope?  How can we adjust when we think we cannot adapt anymore? It’s the key to survival for all of us whether our issues are of money or health or both. How do we take in the new reality when we already feel at the brink? The only answer I have is:  One moment at a time……….. pausing, evaluating, giving loving kindness to yourself and others around you. Take a moment to breath and not attack others or ONESELF.  Don’t play the blame game as easy as it is to do, it’s not helpful and in the end only leads to regret.

If we could all imagine ourselves manning a sailboat, we’d have to deal with the constant weather and wind changes, we would stop to look at the reality of what’s happening and adjust our sails. The wind shifts quite often and it is not the failure of the sailor that it has done so.  The sailor has to adjust the sail and change directions 1 time, 10 times, 100 times or 1000 times,. It just is…………..

Sounds so simple, so uncomplicated. Simple yes, but hard to do, but what choice do we have? Sit still in the middle of the ocean and possibly perish.  For me that is not an option.  I will be adjusting my sails, yet again.